“Why does everything always have to be a fight?” “Why can’t we ever talk about something without it turning into a fight?” These are things I hear not only from my couples in couples therapy but also from individuals. Wouldn’t you appreciate feeling heard in a difficult conversation? And I’m sure there have been [...]
There are times that I don’t always show up as my best self. I’m sure if you ask my husband, Todd, he’ll tell you that there are many more times than I care to admit, that a lesser version of myself shows up. Just like all of us, I can get stressed or be [...]
Another holiday has just passed! While this may be a time that you get together with family and friends, it's important to realize that not everyone's family dinner will look like a Hallmark card! For many, holiday gatherings are stressful and difficult. Here are some tips to help you get through the day! 1. [...]
The Awakening (Author unknown) A time comes in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child [...]
Life isn’t about keeping score. It’s not about how many people call you and it’s not about who you’ve dated, are dating, or haven’t dated at all. It isn’t about who you’ve kissed, what sport you play, or which guy or girl likes you. It’s not about your shoes or your hair or the [...]
Imagination, fantasy, and play. Three concepts that naturally belong together. As children, they were a part of our lives in a very real way. As we get older, we tend to leave play behind to a large extent. Our society dictates that responsible adults focus more on the business of acquisition and achievement – [...]
Children Are Like Kites I see children as kites – you spend a lifetime trying to get them off the ground – you run with them until you are both breathless – they crash – they hit the rooftop – you patch and comfort, adjust and teach. You watch them lifted by the wind [...]
An old Cherokee told his grandson, "My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, kindness, humility, empathy and truth." The boy thought about it and asked, "Grandfather, [...]
"We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us." ~ Joseph Campbell Profound words from a master! So many of us have our noses to the grindstone, following a path that we set for ourselves a long time ago, or worse yet, [...]
This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be [...]
