About Cindy Hayen

Cindy practices psychotherapy in Aurora, Ontario. She sees couples and individuals and practices a variety of psychotherapeutic modalities including animal assisted therapy with her two Golden Retrievers, Romy and Aspen.

Self-Care: Why It’s Important

Lately I seem to be talking about self-care a lot in my therapy room. There seems to be an epidemic of people not taking care of themselves. What happens when we don’t pay attention to our needs over a period of time? Depression, anxiety, feeling lethargic, difficulty in relationships are just some results of [...]

2018-02-05T04:29:19+00:00 February 5th, 2018|0 Comments

Want a Happier Relationship? Stop Criticizing! Complain Instead.

How do you express to your partner that your feelings are hurt or that you are annoyed or angry with him/her? The way you convey these concerns makes a big difference in your relationship, how your spouse is likely to feel and respond, and whether or not you will get your needs met. Many [...]

2016-11-20T15:02:28+00:00 May 18th, 2014|1 Comment

Tips for When a Holiday Gathering Does Not Look Like A Hallmark Card

Another holiday has just passed! While this may be a time that you get together with family and friends, it's important to realize that not everyone's family dinner will look like a Hallmark card! For many, holiday gatherings are stressful and difficult. Here are some tips to help you get through the day! 1. [...]

2016-11-20T15:03:02+00:00 April 21st, 2014|0 Comments

The Awakening

The Awakening (Author unknown) A time comes in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting [...]

2016-11-20T15:03:33+00:00 May 28th, 2013|0 Comments

Life Isn’t About Keeping Score

Life isn’t about keeping score. It’s not about how many people call you and it’s not about who you’ve dated, are dating, or haven’t dated at all. It isn’t about who you’ve kissed, what sport you play, or which guy or girl likes you. It’s not about your shoes or your hair or the [...]

2016-11-20T15:04:12+00:00 October 9th, 2012|0 Comments

Imagination, Fantasy, and Play: Personal Growth Is Just Some Fun Away

Imagination, fantasy, and play. Three concepts that naturally belong together. As children, they were a part of our lives in a very real way. As we get older, we tend to leave play behind to a large extent. Our society dictates that responsible adults focus more on the business of acquisition and achievement – [...]

2016-11-20T15:00:47+00:00 September 10th, 2012|0 Comments

Children Are Like Kites

Children Are Like Kites I see children as kites – you spend a lifetime trying to get them off the ground – you run with them until you are both breathless – they crash – they hit the rooftop – you patch and comfort, adjust and teach. You watch them lifted by the wind and [...]

2016-11-20T15:05:20+00:00 June 21st, 2012|0 Comments

The Cave You Fear To Enter…

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek. Fear of the unknown is our greatest fear. Many of us would enter a tiger’s lair before we would enter a dark cave. While caution is a useful instinct, we lose many opportunities and much of the adventure of life if we fail to [...]

2016-11-20T15:06:23+00:00 April 18th, 2012|0 Comments

Healing Is Not For Wimps

I recently ran across this wonderful article by Rick Belden at his site  He has wonderful insights on how most of us tend to run away from our emotional and psychological pain rather than sitting down and working through it. We do this because of conditioning and fear, among other reasons. The effect of [...]

2016-11-20T15:07:01+00:00 February 11th, 2012|2 Comments

The Two Wolves

An old Cherokee told his grandson, "My son, there is a battle between two wolves inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, kindness, humility, empathy and truth." The boy thought about it and asked, "Grandfather, which [...]

2016-11-20T15:07:36+00:00 February 3rd, 2012|0 Comments